I hate to admit it, but I make assumptions about people based on their appearance all the time. A few weeks ago, I made a new acquaintance who is the father to a college-aged son.
We were talking about our kids and he asked me if I am a strict parent. Judging by his clothes and hairstyle, I assumed that he had not been. So, I shared how at first I had been much authoritarian, valuing discipline more than relationship. Much to my surprise, he chastised me a little , saying that today’s parents are too concerned with being their child’s friend.
While I agree with that, I also have come to believe that while a disciplinarian style may be effective with some children, there are many children (mine included) that respond to a different approach. In the beginning, I thought I had it all figured out – now I realize that there is no “parenting truth” and that in a few years, I may have revised my approach several times over.